I keep trying this, usually when I come across someone in my contacts who I haven't seen in a decade or something. Particularly after deleting Facebook a few years ago, I want to keep up with people.

It's always the same pattern though. We hang out, have a great time, sometimes do it one or two more times, and then it just never happens again. The problem is that it's always me doing the lifting. I have to remember to call, set up some plan, make the thing happen. If I don't do the work, it doesn't work.

I generally end up deciding that it's not worth my time to fight so hard to see someone who obviously isn't interested in prioritizing time with me.

One or two have maintained touch, but there's probably a dozen more who fell back off the map. Forever the optimist though, I've got another one on the calendar in a couple weeks.