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Do people become less of a twat as they age?
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Some great comments below, but i also wanted to add that i think it depends on how open and honest one is. For example, it happens quite frequently that i change my view on something, because someone (usually one of my adult kids) points out certain things that i didn't know or thought about. And then i can just apologize and tell them they are right. It keeps me humble and open to other viewpoints or scientific facts that i didn't know or consider. If someone just kindly points something out to me, that makes it easy to apologize. But if people are hostile and tell you you're wrong in an aggressive way, then it would be pretty hard to admit you hadn't thought of that.
But from what i see, there are a lot of people who just don't want to seem dumb, or are extremely set in their ways, and they will never admit that they were wrong or that there are different ways to see or understand something. Rather, they become angry, or grumble, or change the subject.
Add to this, I don't know how far back but the Boomers, Silent and Greatest Gen all were brought up on a strict "respect your elders" mindset which by the time it got to the boomers is "I am Older therefore always right by default and how DARE you try to correct me!!"
This is also why world governments especially USA is full of geriatrics because old people don't vote for anyone younger than them (if there is a choice) because they don't want a goddamn whippersnapper telling them what to do. The most stubborn kind of old person that is.
And man, they got pissed when the rest of us collectively learned that just being Old doesn't mean shit. The boomers had to bend the knee HARD to their parents authority or they get insta slapped. So they expect, or demand their kids/young people in general treat them the same as it's their Turn now.
But instead we learned they can be wrong and being Old doesn't mean infallible. And they hates it.. BIG MAD they are!. They cope and seethe and mald all over the internet and at the polls. We are literally living in a Baby Boomer tantrum cuz young people will not "respect" them as they were forced to do their parents. Yeah just growing old doesn't mean shit you gotta back that with experience now. Like Nazis whom only thing to be proud of is being Pale.
I'm not that young myself anymore, and i definitely recognize my very strict upbringing you mentioned, but in my view respect needs to be earned. And not once, but over and over again because people change. Seeing most political leaders being very old white men makes me cringe. They often just don't understand the modern world. Just an example; they make decisions about cybersecurity while i'm convinced they don't know the first thing about it. They probably rely heavily on their advisors and just echo what they say would be best.
Thanks, I hope to not be this way as I age
You always have a choice. Just stay informed, surround yourself with wholesome people, and be willing to change your views if needed. I don't think you become a certain way just because you age.
deeper than that. a lot of people's entire identity/value gets wrapped up in patently false beliefs. and being wrong about that means they are wrong as a person.
that is why so many yahoos have this 'or die' dedication to complete nonsensical beliefs and become violent when those beliefs are challenged.
Yes, definitely. Another thing that comes to mind, reading your reply, is that people surround themselves with like minded people. That can be a good thing, or very bad.