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What's something you used to do/see/say but don't anymore because you don't feel it's right? (lemmy.world)

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Me personally? I've become much less tolerant of sexist humor. Back in the day, cracking a joke at women's expense was pretty common when I was a teen. As I've matured and become aware to the horrific extent of toxicity and bigotry pervading all tiers of our individualistic society, I've come to see how exclusionarly and objectifying that sort of 'humor' really is, and I regret it deeply.

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[-] Screwthehole@lemmy.world 244 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

As a millennial, we grew up with the phrases "that's gay" and "that's retarded" (which meant the same thing) and obviously we had to learn to phase those out.

While I never once meant "that's disabled" or "that's homosexual"... We obviously don't say that stuff anymore.

[-] SmellyHamWallet@lemmy.world 132 points 1 year ago

I witnessed something at work a few weeks ago, that caught me off guard. One of the managers was asking for a favour off one of the lads in work, it's a blue collar job so it's never been PC, "Carl, need a favour, can you do such and such" "Can't sorry Steve" "Go on lad don't be gay" "Steve, I've been taking cock for the last 25 years and you asking me to stop for an extra hours work won't stop me"

Everyone around just creased up laughing.

[-] 3ntranced@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago

Now THAT sounds like a friendly work environment lol

[-] electrogamerman@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago

That's not funny at all. I would report Steve to HR immediately.

[-] islandofcaucasus@lemmy.world 20 points 1 year ago

Steve is the HR manager

[-] chase_what_matters@lemmy.world 59 points 1 year ago

I learned these real quick in the workplace as a young adult, around a coworker with a mentally disabled child, and with a coworker who was gay. The abstraction is what made using such crude language easy. As soon as I knew someone affected by the words, I snapped out of it.

Abstraction, come to think of it, is what permits a lot of bad behavior.

[-] T0rrent01@lemmy.world 24 points 1 year ago

See, this is why we need more diverse representation in the media now. Manchildren always whine about "diversity ruining everything" when it's really a truer reflection of America's evolving demographics.

[-] Silviecat44@aussie.zone 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

People don’t complain about diversity usually, they complain about bad writing. It needs to be part of a story and not just a checkbox

[-] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

If hollywood could figure out how to make well-written diverse stories it'd remove the ability for bigots to obfuscate by lumping themselves in with people who just don't like the writing

[-] orphiebaby@lemm.ee 1 points 8 months ago

On it.

[-] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 1 points 8 months ago

Huh

[-] Cold_Brew_Enema@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago

Yep we used to use "that's gay" all the time. Never meant other than that is stupid.

[-] tehcpengsiudai@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Once upon a brighter time, gay was only colloquially used to convey happiness, unrelated to the sexual connotations there is today.

Such a sad time we live in where everything becomes a sensitive topic that can insult and hurt.

To clarify before I get cancelled to oblivion 😂 - you want your diversity, fine with me, good for you, but please there is no need to be a touchy one and reserve a swathe of labels to get insulted by when it can clearly be decided upon context if it was meant to be insulting or not.

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