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What is the most unhelpful advice you have received?
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I'm glad you were open to learning, though!
I have a very progressive siblings who is very pro-mental health and all that, but she never fails to mention how "those meds are so bad for you!" Yeah. I mean.. I guess. The alternative is me being unable to care for myself. But whatever.
"Try exercising!"
Cool, I'd do that if my brain didn't confine me to my bed for 18 hours without meds.
People just. don't. get it. And they need to acknowledge that they don't. It's fine!! Just don't try to act like we're on the same level playing field. We're not!
Agreed, also people need to know how literal having "poor mental health" is. The margin you have for extra load or bad things happening is so much smaller. Similar to how an unexpected bill will be shoulder shrug for someone with good economy and a disaster for someone with bad economy.
Is that what that is? I'm in my 40s and trying to get diagnosed, and the possible ADHD has got worse over the last few years. I've gone through periods of weeks where I'm really struggling to get out of bed, and they coincide with each other.
Depression is also a condition that can cause this. Get a full health screening before you go fully looking into a diagnosis, but definitely keep it in mind if, physically, things turn up normal.
Also keep in mind that depression & anxiety can be comorbid with ADHD, which can often lead to frustrating misdiagnosis and being put onto medications that may not work quote right (if you choose to go that route). Hell, I've been told that "[you] don't have ADHD โ it's trauma! PTSD!" As if the constant invalidatation of my condition wasn't one of the reasons in part that led to my mistreatment and development of PTSD.
I hope that you are able to get answers soon and have things improve!
Thanks for replying :)
Sorry, I think I've just crossed our wires. I was thinking of being stuck in bed as struggling to wake up, rather than being awake but not being able to face the day, for want of a better term. Ironic, as I've struggled with both ๐
I definitely need to speak to someone about my mental health, as well as getting a diagnosis of autism / ADHD, or both (or neither! Yay, weird brains!). My kid has been diagnosed with autism and ADHD, and going through the process with them is what made me and my family realise that I fit the descriptions too. I'm just waiting for the first set of appointments at the moment.
There are definite signs of mental health issues on one side of my family, and neurodivergence on both, so I can't see me escaping unscathed ๐
Oh, it's both.