I get it, I've cut contact with my mother quite a few years ago. She always was into wild conspiracy shit and there's a history of mental issues but I did not realize fully how antisemitic it all was until the refugee crisis started and far right disinfo was absolutely everywhere. Here in Germany you basically cannot go into any comment section of a video or news article of certain topics, without it being completely brigaded by far right trolls pushing their narratives. Needless to say that she got worse and worse since then and eventually I noticed how much it affected me and my own mental health to experience this, so I had to look after myself and basically cut her loose, since I struggled with my own issues already. I can't take care of her and somewhat "ground" her in reality when it takes such a heavy toll on myself, while she still continues to go down that route. It's sad, but ultimately you can't help those who do not really want the help.

"Loyalist" would probably hurt more. Especially once you remind them that the loyalists were fighting against the patriots, thereby excluding them from being patriotic Americans.