You're more than welcome to create the community here. It's worth noting though that even after the community is created here, any user can join it from other Lemmy instances. So not everyone has to join this instance even if you move here.

As for fitting with the instance, as long as you're explicitly queer inclusive and have no space for terfs or any other variety of transphobe, you'll fit right in :)

I've been a subscriber of r/badwomensanatomy for a really long time and can vouch for the fact that I've always felt safe there as a trans woman.

I joined this particular instance because it felt like a safe space to be, and I think that should be one of the biggest considerations when migrating a community like yours.

I think Kobold's concerns about spambots are valid to raise, but as it stands there hasn't been any issues with bots on this instance. I pretty firmly believe the admin's here would take steps when needed to stop spambots and bad actors, as they seem committed to making sure it remains safe.

I think the lower barrier to entry for people is more important at the start like you said, and simplifies things by having an instance you trust to direct your users too. You don't want them wandering onto an instance that won't moderate/defederate malicious and harmful content.

I'm a reddit subscriber who won't vote over there because of my scrubbed account - but consider this a vote to come here! I like this instance and so far it's been drama free and very safe

Dang, quite the big name to come to blahaj! Niceeeee :3

Please keep in mind that instances with open registrations are the ones most likely to be targeted by bad actors to host bot accounts. Instances that do become hosts to bot farms are likely to be defederated by other instances in short order. Not saying your decision to go for one with open registration is necessarily bad, but you should be aware that this is a concern that has been raised.

I'd love to resubscribe, wherever you end up. I'm enjoying kbin.social but there are plenty of great options.

I contributed to BWA and will again. Count me in.

196 is very populair here and isn't directly related to queerness either, so that shouldn't nescesarily be a problem.

When I came over I tried lemmy.world and it just didn't work, wouldn't log in. So I wound up on kbin. As far as I can tell, from a user perspective it doesn't matter which instance you land on, I can see all the content from all the instances in federation and engage as I see fit, as long as they stay connected.

While there's a brief question (basically a vibe check) in the signup form, you're probably going to be much more in-line with the beliefs and attitudes of Beehaw.org than Lemmy. Lemmy is kind of a free-for-all right now; they just had a large Lemmy instance that had to have some kind of big vote or "review" or something over whether or not to ban a The_Donald sub that like 2 people were posting in.

Beehaw is intentionally moderated specifically to be a safer federation space, although you'd have to contact the admins about opening up a badwomensanatomy community (they don't let just anyone spin up a sub whenever they feel like it, specifically to avoid having to go back and clean out a bunch of TD-like nonsense).

Kbin is kind of in-between those two. Lemmy is the wild west, Beehaw is a protected grove, and kbin kind of tries to keep them both happy without compromising too much on either the heavy-modding side or the "we're not sure if we're cool with nazis or not" side. As such, you can see content from both, while Beehaw has defederated (basically blocked at the software level) a couple of the bigger Lemmy instances (including the "do we like nazis? let's take a vote" instance).

The downside of kbin is that it's technologically still rough around the edges; as far as I know, there's like one guy trying to keep up with everything on the backend, and he's a little swamped right now, so features/suggestions are going to take a while to be implemented.

[Edit: Also, I loved your sub. Y'all rock.]

It would be great to have your community join lemmy either here on blahaj or beehaw! I'd definitely subscribe! The closed registration was what most drew me to beehaw over blahaj, but I'm fairly defensive regarding potential troll exposure and the general unpleasantness of which the internet excels. Raddle could be a nice fit for you all as well. However an examination of the rules there would be well advised for those making the switch. Language frequently used on reddit would run afoul of many. Good luck with your potential move!

I strongly suggest beehaw.org or kbin.social

Another shout out to kbin.social, which I think will be the friendliest for users.

I think lemmy.world and infosec.pub are pretty good; although that's just based on what I've seen of the admins on Mastodon. I'd love to see you guys; badwomensanatomy was one of my favorites on Reddit!

I don't have a technical answer for you, but as a likely subscriber - I'm glad to see you here. Its (lemmy/kbin universe) is feeling more and more like a reddit replacement day by day.

Welcome & look forward to finding you wherever the sub ends up 👍

Happy if you move here, I've occasionally enjoyed your content when it pops up in front page.

Like others have said Beehaw seems like the most well moderated instance but it might come with a cost in reach since it's defederated other instances and registering needs approval. I don't really see it as a big problem though.

I'd like you to join kbin, specifically instance I'm in (kbin.social). Maybe check out the UI differences between Lemmy and kbin, since that might make a difference - the content will be shared through both systems anyway so it's not that big of a deal what you choose as long as you like it.

I would suggest Kbin.social. It is fully interoperable with Lemmy and Mastodon

I don't have a technical answer for you, but as a likely subscriber - I'm glad to see you here. Its (lemmy/kbin universe) is feeling more and more like a reddit replacement day by day.

Welcome & look forward to finding you wherever the sub ends up 👍