As others have mentioned, there is clearly a communication breakdown. It's probably not the only thing, but the key thing I see is a lack of communication about expectations.

It's clear you care about this relationship because you're experiencing a lot of hurt over his actions. And it's clear you care about him as you're doing things for him the way you like to be cared for. And under normal circumstances, sure this is one way to communicate expectations and develop reciprocation. Your feelings are totally understandable. His actions didn't meet your expectations of caring for you and the relationship, and that feels like he doesn't care or even feels like an attack on you, and it can feel unjust because you're doing the things.

However, when you're in a rough patch and arguing, it's not the status quo anymore and expectations aren't as clear. It can be confusing, especially when things are tense/fraught, to ask someone to do something and expect them to do something else. If he's repeatedly not meeting expectations with what you assume he knows in the moment, then you might have to reconsider your assumption and re-communicate that.

So during fights, it might be more helpful to explicitly feel out each others' expectations and wants at a base level on common things like special occasions. Which brings us to the other side. Understandably, you're focuses on how you feel about it and your frustrations. It's a frustrating situation with deep implications for a relationship that's incredibly important to you. What we haven't heard much about is what you know about his expectations and how he likes being cared for. Did you know what his expectations around Valentine's were? For some people, acting like everything is normal and exchanging gifts right after a major fight can feel painfully disingenuous and forced. Do you know what his expectations were around your birthday?

This isn't to call you out or anything, especially when you're upset about the situation, but rather to point out a gap. If the goal is to reconcile and develop a resolution to the fraught situation, it has to start with mutual understanding of each others' expectations and where both your feelings are coming from. This doesn't mean immediately accepting blame or agreeing with the other's justifications in the broader arguments. It just means creating the space for each other to be genuinely seen and heard.

Now, i know i told him not to bother me BUT

There's no but here. You asked to be left alone and you were. That's it. If you're disappointed then you need to communicate your needs a little better.

In a nutshell, don't ask for one thing and expect the opposite. That's not how healthy relationships work. Communicate your needs.

He respected your wishes. That's a good thing.

Clearly, in hindsight, what you expressed to him was not really what you wanted. That's on you, not him. It might help for you to have individual counseling to learn to better recognize/express your needs and it might help to have couples counseling to learn how to work through whatever your arguments are about.

It also sounds like you are probably young, and this just may not be a permanent relationship. That can be very painful, but not every relationship is made to last.

Along with the other comment, if an issue keeps popping up and no solution can be found, then it's one of two things:

1. The issue can't be solved
2. You're bad at communicating

If it's 1), the solution is either to accept it and not mention it again or to break up.

If it's 2), which is likely, since this post is about bad communication, you need to be ready to learn about better communication, and take steps towards doing that. If you're not, then it'll likely lead to resentment which again leads to breaking up.

Gets exactly what they asked for, complains that partner didn’t read their mind and do the opposite.

Your relationships are always going to have this problem if you don’t change that.