Fwiw, if it's a casual situation, you can probably ask and get an answer that isn't too dickish, or maybe not dickish at all.

Here's the wild thing, there are no neurotypical, it is a fictional point on a weird scale.

Even worse, the folk you think are neurotypical all feel like this too.

If we find the commonality we can agree on change. If we keep talking about us vs them, only barriers will go up.

... again?