Insert horrified looks when I tell me friends some "funny stories" from my childhood. :D
eye contact? no clue how much or how little is appropriate
why good at school? adhd and being smart do not exclude one another
When half my concentration in a given conversation goes to behaving "properly" (trying not to fidget, maintaining a hopefully appropriate amount of relaxed eye contact without staring, appearing attentive but relaxed), half goes to figuring out whether, how, when and what to contribute and I also have to listen and process the words because I occasionally struggle with understanding spoken language... yeah, sure, I may seem normal, but something somewhere is gonna drop off the radar.
Whether I say something appropriate or hit the right timing to chime in without either interrupting or being too late becomes (even more of) a gamble, which stresses me out and causes anxiety, further taking away focus and composure. Alternatively, I become quiet and feel more like an observer on the sidelines than a part of the conversation, isolated by my own struggles. Or I blunder and say something wrong and retreat to that isolation in shame. Or I don't really hear what you're saying, lose track of the conversation, am caught off-guard by the odd question cast my way, or simply retreat from trying to contribute because I don't even know what we're talking about, back into the same isolation.
I'm a chatty person. But I'm scared to chat with most people. Doing so leaves me either mentally or emotionally drained and upset. I hide away, retreat to the internet where I can better regulate my participation, make excuses not to attend company events, let social contacts slip away because maintaining them is too much stress, struggle to make doctor's appointments or call for a med refill...
If you think I seem normal - thanks for the compliment, I worked really hard on that facade. I'm glad it's working.
But inside, I die a little each time.
Bruh, Boomers and Gen Xers are some of the most ignorant people alive.
Out of sheer sarcastic curiosity why don’t you spell it out for us. What, exactly, does this brilliant theory have for its objective proof?
Exhibit A: They're politics. All the problems we have today were voted in by them
Exhibit B: They are objectively less educated than later generations.
I could go on
Less educated, but you failed to provide the requsted actual objective proof and substituted opinion? Less educated, yet you can’t use “they’re” properly? Your actions seem to indicate you’re a secret Gen X’er by your own metrics. Many of our political problems stem from the Reagan Administration, yet Gen X, which started in 1965 (and I think that’s too early to start that bracket), would have been too young to legally vote for Reagan.
I could go on
Oh, by all means. Please do.
The lighter side of ADHD
