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https://youtu.be/6k0ZMPGFh9w
Thoughts on this?
Sex should always be 100% consensual. If someone says 'no', then you must stop. If you don't then that's rape as far as I'm concerend. But would you acknowledge there's nuance in playful protest?
Also, there's also a growing (and understandable) feeling that consent can't be given under the influence of alcohol. However, where i come from our population would probably be half it's size if that were always true.
Also, if you have sex drunk and regret it later, there's an argument that the person you had sex with has taken advantage. That's a tricky one to navigate.
Haven't watched the video, but regarding the playful protest point
Discuss it beforehand. Talk about expectations or wants, say that you enjoy playful protest and want it to happen, and, most critically of all, set up a safe word. Have a word like "red" or "banana" or whatever else you want, that both of you agree upon, that, when uttered, everything stops.
Oh, for sure. Once you're in a relationship then there's a whole world to explore, as consent is established. But the video (comedically/crudely depending on your own sense of humour) alludes to very early flirtation and the games people play, where a grey area arises as one party wants the other to believe that they are somehow reluctant to proceed (although they're not), to somehow present the idea that they're not usually promiscuous, perhaps to massage the ego of the instigator. The concept of 'sweet surrender' is explored in countless romantic works and is definitely a thing - and not something that should be conflated with rape, is I guess what i'm trying to put across.