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[-] Formfiller@lemmy.world 11 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 23 hours ago)

I am a journey level worker in a construction trade union. My union is basically a mysoginist white supremisist gang. You have to go through near constant abuse and mobbing to just exist. Even the more reasonable guys treat you like a pariah because they will get bullied if they don’t. You will always have to work way harder than those around you. The women I’ve seen have long term success came in through affirmative action (that’s gone now) all ended up with what I’d describe as Stockholm syndrome. They all worked until they were broken ( breast cancer, double knee replacements, shoulder joint failure) and tried to keep going stuck in the constant need to prove themselves mode. It’s not a merit based system it’s more of a weird alpha male worship structure. I worked on a job where all the guys had a picture of the foremans dick on their phone and we’re going around shoving it in eachothers faces and calling eachother gay. I’ve also seen a few women make it and get some level of protection by participating bullying and discrimination against other minorities. Punching down is always rewarded in this system. The best most talented women or black man will always be below even the most tore up unqualified white man and our tax dollars uphold this system. The money is great though.

[-] LadyButterfly@lemmy.world 8 points 23 hours ago

Holy shit that's bad mate. It's a classic situation, bullies pick on those that are different, then the decent people have to avoid the victim or the bully will go for them. People survive by trampling on others to get ahead. Stockholm syndrome is right, I've got a friend that works in a toxic culture and her idea of normal is awful. She just doesn't see how bad a lot of it is. It gets almost post apocalyptic with people doing what they want cos there's nothing to stop them. Do you have any long term career goals?

[-] Formfiller@lemmy.world 4 points 19 hours ago

Yea you’re on point. Nice to talk to someone who understands the system. I’m in school right now trying to regroup but it’s hard and very financially damaging to walk away from a career that I’m really good at. Lot of mixed feelings. Been doing a lot of art to help me process

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