Congrats on cracking your egg! Welcome to the family! A few things that I suggest to start out with is to begin wearing panties under your boy mode clothes. Also paint your toenails. Long flowing skirts are amazing must-haves in your new wardrobe, look for "maxi skirts" and pair them with any old T-shirt and a cardigan for an instant easy girly look!

Jada had sex with a friend of her son's. That's about it.

On the left? Nixon. On the right? Ice Spice.

I also really like, "Pounded in the Butt by My Own Butt"

Worried about what? It seems clear she and J are having some issues and it's probably better to not get involved. Behind closed doors they clearly have a problem they're working through. What you need now are boundaries for yourself and to think about and talk about your own personal expectations with K.

This is Lam Thi Dep, a 24 year old, twice widowed Viet Cong soldier.

https://rarehistoricalphotos.com/female-viet-cong-guerrila-1972/

The only way to not repeat this is to learn from it. I'm a big proponent of "attract, don't chase." When you are the absolute best version of yourself, happily doing your own thing and living your best life, people find that attractive. Try to volunteer or go to hobby events/shops, you're going to find people who like what you like and try to find a relationship that is a positive feedback loop. I think you should want to do everything in your power to make your partner happy because their happiness brings you joy and your partner should feel the same about you. Boost each other until you both reach your goals.

I agree with you, I think Shaxs can do better. But I also think that maybe Shaxs used to be like Dr. T'Ana and feels some empathy for her. I'll admit I was a bit kooky before I met my spouse, she recognized that my lashing out was a product of my environment and life experience and offered me a different perspective. She only knew that because she used to lash out for the same reasons and did many years of therapeutic work to get her back on track. So when she saw me hurting in the same ways, she offered me the roadmap she used and I'm a lot better for it. Maybe Shaxs feels this same way about Dr. T'Ana. He sees she's struggling and indulges her because he loves her, but is also slowly chipping away at the hurt that they share.

Fuck dude, I'm sorry for your loss and the shitty aftermath you had to deal with when you were grieving. I hope you and your father have found peace and happiness and that you don't have contact with those vultures at all anymore.

Obviously, you feel bad/guilty because you're a good person who cares deeply. Knowing that, would you have treated her the way she treated you? I don't think so. Ergo, she's probably a bad person because you know you're good and you don't act that way.

Just because you were together for a while doesn't mean you have any responsibility for her present situation, especially because she's so abusive. If the roles were reversed, a woman wouldn't feel guilty about running as far away as possible and you shouldn't either. Abuse is abuse and it sucks to suck. She's gotta deal with the consequences of her actions.

I used to keep a notebook by my bed so I could write down all the questions to bring up with my therapist. The added benefit was that as soon as I wrote it down, I felt like I could just forget about it for a while and actually fall asleep.

Or as she'd say, her "navigator."