Same thing with The Guardian, where their feminist opinion pieces were written by an actively transphobic woman for a long time after it was considered not-cool.

That's a very philosophically positive way of thinking about it!

Also, in DS9, he asked (kinda) Klingons to join him in battle. They got there in time to help the harvest, and when challenged he said that time was their enemy.

Domestic violence is absolutely something that I've seen swept under the rug in queer spaces, I usually chalk it up to the fight against bigotry taking so much effort that many community leaders don't want to risk fracturing the group they're trying to keep together.

It was all going so well until the first amendment at the bottom.

Ok, so you know when you see a post about something you have in-depth knowledge about, but feel let down because fundamental parts about it are wrong?

That's this post for me. I'm a specialist working on automotive safety testing who also happens to be a woman. My boss is also a woman, we have some women test engineers, and the most senior test assessor where I work is also a woman.

If anyone wants to ask me about the state of testing vehicles vs. sexism, or anything about vehicle testing for that matter, I'm happy to talk about my work because I love it.

Unfortunately given that the part of this article regarding vehicle safety is so woefully wrong, I have doubts about the rest of it. This doesn't help make things better for anyone IMO, it just gets people mad.

Aside from it sounding as horrible as Facebook, the rush of new users is probably because a) Instagram users can go straight in, b) curiosity, and c) oh god what is Elon thinking. They probably aren't aware of Mastodon. Or Lemmy.

Gotta take care of yourself first, nobody is going to begrudge you of that. I know exactly how you feel, I've been through the same thing before ... like they say, don't light yourself on fire to keep others warm.

You've got a good group of volunteers, they're taking care of things, don't come back until you feel completely ready!

It feels odd to see it laid out graphically, the culture wars really are cutting the US up into bits.

I feel so bad for trans people living there now, and also worried that the far right here in Europe is relentlessly trying the same tactics too (though with less success over all, they've made headway).

One community on an instance, the users of that instance (who partake of The_Donald, for instance) are users of all federated instances. Thus if federated they would have fun by turning every other available community into an unpleasant experience.

As a reddit example, after posting on archery and motorcycle related subs I received threatening and sexual messages. Beehaw is the first place I've seen that actively wants to avoid that from day one, and I really hope it succeeds. Being cautious over defederation has been a big plus point for me.

Because when you have 10 people around a table who don't mind one nazi pulling up a chair, you have 11 nazis.

You know the scene in The Matrix where Neo gets a cookie, and there's a sign above the door that says "know thyself" ... well, the knowing thyself is a tricky thing that most people never try to do. Often because it's too hard or scary. But you're working it out, and by the time you've settled on the big questions you'll know ~~kung fu~~ how to do makeup and find clothes.

Two things to remember: There's no "right" answer so these things can take time. There's no "right" way to be a woman or any other gender (I have no fucking clue regarding makeup, for instance).