Some of the many species Jeffrey Combs has evolved into:
Who cares what name anyone uses .... my wife and I never got married and she's always had her name and we never bothered changing a thing because we never cared. No one cares ... not even the government.
my wife and I never got married
I'm assuming you mean you never had a ceremony?
Aren't you automatically married by common law in Canada after a certain number of years? I seem to remember that was the case with my uncle and his wife. But he eventually had to marry her because she's German and she couldn't get a long-term visa so he could work in the states when he was allowed to return. He dodged the Vietnam war draft. When Clinton allowed people like him to return, he got a job at the Library of Congress. Quite ironic.
Meanwhile, she continued to get paid for Canadian work because she was a professor at the (at the time) by-mail only Athabasca University.
If Uncle Sam was expecting them to stick around, they didn't. They moved back to Saskatoon after he retired. Canada treated him very well. He happened to be pursuing a folklore degree right at the time the Canadian government realized they needed folklorists to help preserve various cultures within their borders.
Sorry for rambling. I need more sleep apparently.
Yes ... that's why I say the government doesn't care ... after a couple have been together for a few years, they are more or less considered married, legally speaking. We thought of a ceremony for a while ... then waited for so long that we just never think of it any more.
I know some same sex couples that have been together for over 30 years up here, they got together years ago as 'friends living together' when the attitudes of same sex couples were still frowned upon. Now after all that time, they are more or less married couples and file their taxes just like every other married couple. When it comes to finances and taxation, governments and economics really don't care about sexuality or sexual orientation, as long as you pay your taxes.
I also know of a friend of a friend from the sixties who lived up north near Timmins who received US draft dodgers during the 70s. A couple of young professionals who eventually became high school teachers and college professors and ended up just living up here all their lives. They did a lot for people and gave a lot of their energy and expertise to people up here ... also excellent folk musicians and artists ... all because of some dumb war they were avoiding. There was some good that came out of those dumb wars the US was forcing their young people to die in for no reason.
Don't worry about rambling ... I always enjoy hearing from you.
Get more sleep ... never apologize for being a Ramblin' Man. Stay well my friend.
It's also crazy to me that Canada basically didn't care about their folklore until the late 60s. And I don't just mean indigenous cultures. That would make sense due to all the bigotry. But they also weren't interested in things like preserving the unique culture that has developed in The Maritimes.
I have a white Newfie friend who is now in Alberta and he's constantly talking about how he wished people in Edmonton were more like Newfies culturally. Clearly there are distinct cultures in Canada even for white people. No one in the government thought that was worth recording either.
Just bizarre.
The compromise is clearly to swap last names with each other
I have some friends that got married and decided to merge their two last names and create a brand new last name. I thought it was a cool idea
When discussing marriage with my girlfriend (now wife), she mentioned not wanting to change her name. I told her this wasn't acceptable - I expected her to change her name. But she repeated not wanting to change her last name. I told her she misunderstood, I didn't want her to change her last name, I wanted her to change her first name to "groupofcrows property", she can keep her last name. She did not accept this. (Yes this was a real conversation, yes we have been married for 7 years, no she did not change her name)
If Matt Walsh wasn’t openly a male supremacist I’d say it should be turned around on him.
Every time I see one of his shit takes on here for a moment a think of the actor Matt Walsh and think “oh no the funny guy is a shitbag?!”
But no it’s always this other asshole, at least I hope
Nah that guy's an upright citizen.
It's illegal to change your name for wedding reason in Quebec (Canada). Something that followed the quiet Revolution and distancing government and religion. You don't own your wife. You can still pee on her shoes but it won't be notarized.
I read this in Shrans voice.
It probably even works in Brunt's voice, because Ferengi are more progressive than Matt Walsh.
Calling it now. His next movie is "Am I a misogynist?" and in it he will prove that he is indeed one.
If it creates such a wall of separation, take her name instead. Problem solved.
I demanded (not really) that my wife keep her last name. We have the same first name although spelled slightly different
My wife didn't change her last name because we both forgot about it in the timeframe where it was easy to do and now we don't want to putz with it. 🤷
I also still don't have a wedding ring. We just had our sixth anniversary a few days ago.
I only recently found out he was Brunt as well as Weyoun. And had no idea about the others. (I still haven't gotten around to Enterprise.) What a talented guy!
BRUNT, FCA
DS9 casually nailing it with ferengi actors. Even the cousin was great
I'm a woman and paid to change my surname because it was difficult for everyone to pronounce. I can only hope my future husband will want to take my name rather than the other way around. I paid for it, it's kinda VIP now.
I think you would have to physically fight my wife to make her relearn her signature with a new name.
My wife's first name and my last name would sound really awkward together, which is the main reason why she kept hers and why it never bothered me that she did.
It is annoying to have to explain to people at places like hospitals that we're married even though we have different last names.
Asking with curiosity and respect, for those in the "keeping my name" camp -
You were given your name by your parents, and most often the surname is the father's surname.
Most of you adopt nicknames or pet names which change over time (what your family calls you vs your friends vs your colleagues)
Why is it a really big deal to you? Is it being asked / expected to change your name by a societal norm / being told what to do? Or the effort involved in changing it?
Source - male, changed my surname when I moved internationally, married, and wife's family expected her to change her name to mine because we were starting a new family and that would be the family name.
I didn't give a shit because my surname isn't my family name, it's one of my middle names, so it seemed arbitrary, and said so to both her and them.
Wife decided she would change her name and our kid has that name too. It was an absolute pain in the ass to do for her because she's lived here for much longer than me so had more things to change, so I understand not wanting to deal with that. But years down the track - everyone seems happy - reading through these comments tho many of you view this as wrong??
Generally, women are expected to change their last name to their husband's last name when they get married. It's viewed as wrong because it's needlessly patriarchal.
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