You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.

I think it’s fine to want to educate the undereducated, but the reality is they’ll never learn unless they want to learn. So when they say something ignorant, you can just say that hasn’t been your experience.

If they ask for more you can share your experience. If they’re still interested then you can open it up to the broader national or global narrative.

I feel for you and your loved ones and I hope you have success finding and building allies in your community.

You could try dropping the condescending tone. Just because someone disagrees with you doesn't mean he is uneducated.

I would also recommend being polite and using the charity principle. You generally won't change someone's mind by berating him.

Tbh, I don't know much beyond "transgender people exist". No idea about any nuances, the exact kinds of transgender, the differences etc. There seems to be a lot more to it than "trans men/women", and I feel a bit ignorant trying to make sense of terms like "asexual" by their dictionary definitions.

I've so far been living by the motto "be a decent person", considering myself open-minded and tolerant, but if there are good sources of information with an overview of all this, please drop me a link.

To say something controversial: maybe listen to what they have to say and try to understand why they think what they think, instead of assuming that you're automatically right and just need to educate them.

I like to figuratively give people shovels and let them dig themselves into a hole. A lot of people I talk to don't really have good evidence, they've just been convinced by someone louder than them.

Ask genuine questions, not debate me bro style, for explanations. If they're open minded, maybe they'll question things. If they're closed minded, you were never gonna get anywhere with them.