[-] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 1 points 2 days ago

There are still nice indies without that greedy attitude that big corps have. Wube Software for example (the factorio guys) are pretty irreproachable afaik.

[-] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 2 points 2 days ago

Movies are usually fine for me, as long as the sound is reasonably loud. Television not so much: stuff is going too fast and I'm always anxious about missing out. Paradoxically I was very fond of cartoons back in the days, just frustrated that I could never get the whole story because of worldly contrivances.

[-] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 1 points 6 days ago

Here is what works for me. If it doesn't for you then that's understandable.

At some point it gets easier to live with less than to work more. Jobs that pay a lot always either:

  • are painfully hard
  • require rare degrees of certification
  • require a lack of morality Many combine several of those items.

Personally I live with way less than what would be considered "low" in my country: it pays for my home, food (as long as I cook myself most of the time) and I am even able to keep some around in case of need. Now with that said I have no idea how it is in your country so my advice are probably off.

[-] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 3 points 1 week ago

I speak English. That's a foreign language for me... Does that count?

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This is about a test I took as a child, about 20 years ago (not sure if it was IQ, but it was this kind of test). I'd like to find what it was but I (obvioulsy) dont remember everything about it. However some specific details are still pretty vivid so perhaps one of you had a similar test and could have a reference.

I remember a section about assembling jigsaw puzzles. Not very complicated one but I was timed. There were also trivia questions (like "what does the U.N. acronym mean?"). More specifically, there were questions where I was shown pictures and I had to point out "what was missing". Stuff like a chest of drawers (like this one but as a simplified drawing) with one handle missing.

Thanks for your attention!

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First appointment on Monday (lemmy.autism.place)

So, I am (finally) having the first appointment for my diagnosis. I would be lying if I said I wasn't stressed at all... Any tips?

For context, I'll be with my father (they asked for a parent to come), with whom I have a complicated relationship (no hostility, but still he is stressful to be around).

[-] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 3 points 3 weeks ago

Had a Therion phase. Also Ultra Vomit but it doesn't have the same appeal now that they have become bigger.

[-] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 4 points 1 month ago

I have something that may or may not be related: some stuff just makes me physically faint. It's never sudden, I see it coming and if I manage to get away from the trigger, lay down and wait it goes away, but if I can't do it quick enough I know it can be dangerous. Among the triggers are intense pain (like burning your stomach by swallowing something too hot) but also conversations about "real" body horror (a movie is fine, but somebody telling me about how their plan to get an operation often isn't, back in middle school I remember fainting as the teacher was talking about some health risk).

[-] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 4 points 2 months ago

Not speaking for all of them but sometimes just feeling good about yourself is enough. You can even tell them how you appreciate their efforts (assuming you do)

[-] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 3 points 3 months ago

I am a native French speaker who had a phase with an interest toward grammar, so I probably can help you with it if you are learning this language. Also I am quite good at explaining maths to kids or teens, even those with difficulties. It gets harder with adults.

[-] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 4 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Oh, one call is already stressfull* for me, but I can manage it. Perhaps it would already qualify as "not comfortable". That said there is a gradation between your average "not your cup of tea but that's ok if you can take your time for it" and "risks having a meltdown in the middle of a phone call". It was dangerously close to that second category.

*Except those from that one person I'd marry if we weren't both 'commies' who think marriage is a thing of the past.

[-] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 5 points 3 months ago

Good luck! Please tell us how it went, I hopefully will reach the same point as you at some point so your experience interests me.

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I know it would sound stupid for most people, but not here (I hope?)

So I am in my early thirties and I have a long history of not going enough to the doctor. When I was a child my mother was my referent doctor and she always have been in the "no need to take medecine if it's going to heal by itself" school of thinking (I don't mean that in a bad way: I still got my vaccines, etc, just that she would directly send me to specialists when there was a serious issue). After I left the house I never cared about changing my referent doctor (although of course my mom who lived hundreds of kilometers away couldn't fill this role anymore) so I just stopped seeing any health professional.

As it appeared to me more and more obviously that I was autistic, I wanted to get a diagnostic (it is needed here in France if I want to have accomodations at work and such, also I would get some money that wouldn't hurt). Among all of the steps I needed to consult a doctor. I asked some people I know if they knew doctors who would take new patients, looked all over the internet, made way more calls than it was comfortable... but I couldn't find any. The only appointment I could get had a 6 months delay, plus it was with a substitute, and I was so stressed about it that I messed up the date and came the previous day... In the end I managed to get some papers I needed but nothing more.

About a month ago I was feeling a bit sick and I decided it was enough and I needed something to be done. All the doctors were full, as always, or didn't take new patients, but some were noted as on vacation but with a substitute (and said substitute didn't specify if they took new patients or not). Rather than calling to check, I decided to just get the appointment. At worst they would send me a mail to tell me my appointment had been cancelled or whatever. Still it was very stressfull.

Anyway, my appointment went very well and this substitute doctor was very nice. She told me she would open her cabinet next year and would be able to be my refferent at that point, but also that before that she could work as a "temporary refferent" for most stuff. She looks like a great doctor.

That's all! I hope it wasn't too boring to read through my ramblings.

[-] maryXann@lemmy.autism.place 3 points 4 months ago

The one thing I like the least is A2. Seriously, once I had to sleep at a friend's house because I couldn't find my key, which was in my pocket all along. If said friend hadn't been there I probably would have slept outside.

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