My boss asked me once why my wife and I didn't want kids and my reply was "everyone I know who has kids has told me not to...including you"

So it's now legal to have a "WHITES ONLY" or a "STRAIGHTS ONLY" sign on your door?

Beehaw's defederation purpose is very clear, and they didn't start the drama. The mods of Beehaw started it as a safe space for minorities and marginalized communities, which is why you have to apply for an account there in the first place. The rapid expansion of the Fediverse led to their server being flooded with comments from other lemmy instances that the mods were trying to avoid by the creation of beehaw in the first place, so they chose to defederate. Seems pretty clear-cut to me.

Edit( The drama started when everyone else started flipping out, thinking they were owed participation in a community they weren't a part of. You are owed nothing)

If you don't like it, that's fine. They didn't do it for you. They did it for them and for their users. If you don't like it, you can create an account on an instance they still federate with.

Isn't this like... the whole point of the Federated Universe? The mods do Beehaw want their server to be a "safe space". They're perfectly within their rights to restrict who can post in their own community. But you, the user, are not in any way beholden to their whims, and can make an account on any other Lemmy instance, or create your own and make it as restricted or unrestricted as you please.

It seems logical to me that the creators of a safe space for marginalized communities would restrict their community from the internet at large because people on the Internet feel emboldened by anonymity to attack others.