Every once in awhile these sort of posts make me introspective, they say almost exactly the same as my opinion about what I think of far right conservatives. Then I remember I'm not the one oppressing people and want to accept everyone as long as they don't bring intolerance.

I guarantee you within 5 minutes of seeing/talking to his kids, he mentions trump and dives hard into his extreme right politics.

But its everyone else that has "Trump Derangement Syndrome", not him and his incessant need to make it the center of his life.

That's how the religious indoctrination at the base of this works. By design you NEVER question the church. And the Conservative GOP leadership has tapped into that reality distortion field. They could literally tell these people to commit murder and they would...

It's Nazi level propaganda scary.

No estranged parent ever does.

(For anyone that wants to know more: http://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/)

It’s crazy. I know I’m part of the problem too. These people need something other than factual rebuttals to bring them back into the fold but I’m le tired. I can’t do it anymore. But that means the system is working as intended and we must strive to dismantle it.

I'm just starting my deeper learning about narcissism, but I think one trait is literally being unable to admit fault. It's how their brain works.

They can't say "Christian values" anymore, so they've replaced it with "family values", and in this case the more brazen "patriarchy" (which probably came from bashing feminism) and various scattering of "values".

It doesn't even have horses

Exactly. Good parents don't have to rebond with their kids.

Exactly. This person may very well suffer with some degree of narcissism, which would make it impossible to see their own responsibility in the whole thing, hence the projection.

Thank you! I had heard that term before and was racking my brain trying to remember it, because it seemed to apply to this situation so well. My mom is like this with my older brother. They've been no contact for over 15 years now because my mom said some racist things about my sister-in-law and niece. But when she describes why she doesn't talk to my brother, that is never mentioned. It's always vague reasons like "his wife won't let him talk to me."

It's SO good. Facebook is riddled with these parents.

That's propaganda for you. It started with debates, but when you're pushing for something that's obviously bad to enrich yourself it's hard to have honest conversations about it so you turn to hate.

"Let's not discuss tax rates, it's the damn communist liberals that just want to destroy America! They don't care about tax rates, they just want free unicorns and to dress their kids as furries!"

If this person is truly narcissistic as the title states, then the call for unity at the end is simply a method of playing the victim. And I’m inclined to believe the title, since his child has gone no-contact. Because going no-contact is often the only way for children of narcissists to begin improving their own mental health after growing up with a narcissist for a parent.

If there’s one thing narcissists love, it’s turning things around on their victims. They always want to control the narrative to be the victim. Given that context, the call for unity rings hollow. Because it could easily just be a way for the grandfather to flip the script and paint their child in a bad light. It allows them to go “hey I’ve been trying to reconcile and they have refused.” But what the people reading this post wouldn’t know (especially if they’ve only seen the grandfather’s side) is that the child has been refusing because every time they have tried in the past they have been burned.

I don't see the redemption. This person was obviously a horrible father always and caused his children to suffer his behavior. Whatever happened with Trump was just the icing on top of the cake and only gave a place for these behaviors to be projected.

I'm getting the impression that they "re-bonded" after retiring because their ex cut them out, and the divorce was a result of their ego and stubbornness.

I stopped being so open about the fact that I disowned my narcissistic mother, at least among strangers. I got sick of all the arguments from people who would also want nothing to do with her, if they ever had to misfortune to meet her.

She is a nasty, vindictive, obsessive person who goes out of her way to hurt people. She sees people as tools to manipulate, not as human beings. The only relationships she has ever been able to maintain are with people too afraid of her to leave.

But sure, tell me again how blood is thicker than water.

Agreed. People who don't understand how you can be estranged from your parents have NO idea how crazy they can be.

I just reviewed a bunch of posts like his and the comments are like this: