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I don't feel rewarded for anything "good" I do
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If you don't do the important things in life you'll die. Your genes built the dopamine system to make sure you'll do those things. Your dopamine system doesn't function correctly. When you do a life sustaining thing, your broken dopamine system says, "meh, that was a waste of time, don't do that again or you'll die. Do something that does give dopamine."
Here's my hack. Give your brain dopamine. Figure out the things that engage you and make you feel good. If you're engaged and feeling good, it's because the dopamine is flowing. I like reading, video games, TV, and interesting complex problems. Right after I do a boring task, I reward myself with some dopamine. I play a game or I work on an interesting problem. I treat my brain like a labrador. Good boy have a treat. The bigger the task the bigger the reward.
Slightly less helpful but still good is affirmations. When you do something good, take a moment to recognize it, just to yourself. "I cleaned my room, which is good. I should feel good about it." It sounds corny, but it helps.