Can you have a conversation with a stranger? do you have them often? (lemmings.world)

submitted 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) by Platypus@lemmings.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Because I honestly can't. I can barely talk with the very few people I know. Is just so out of my range. That's why I don't have friends or a partner and I don't see that changing.

EDIT: no, responding comments here or asking this question ISN'T having a conversation for me. So I don't feel this as "progress".

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[-] Vanth@reddthat.com 15 points 3 weeks ago

Yeah. I haven't always been very comfortable with it, I made active effort to learn ways to make it easier.

I also lived in the Midwest for a while where asking someone "How are you doing" is an actual invitation to conversation and not just a response of "fine". I learned some people are very open to chitchat with strangers, some people aren't, and it gets pretty easy with practice to tell which is which noting body language and those first few words they respond to you with.

Also, you're doing it now, OP. Way to go. Forum conversations like this totally count. Maybe next level up for you is some IM chatting with someone from a hobby group you're interested in.

[-] Platypus@lemmings.world 2 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

It totally doesn't count dude. Especially since this isn't my first language, or second, I have no use for English outside Google and pointless social media light usage.

[-] Vanth@reddthat.com 3 points 3 weeks ago

Sooooo, do this but in a language that "counts"?

[-] Platypus@lemmings.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

I'm unable to

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