I don’t have her passwords, she doesn’t have mine.

Having the means for each spouse to get the others passwords can be pretty essential when dealing with critical emergencies and death. It's good to have some way for someone you trust to get your online accounts when you pass away so that everything can be concluded and canceled and sentimental content preservation and all that.

For my relationship the means to gain access to my password manager are available in the case of an emergency. Maybe shove the credentials in a bank security box and put access to it into your will if you don't feel you can trust your partner with the knowledge while you are alive.

World has always been fucked (see Billy Joel's "we didn't start the fire" for simple reference). Life is what you make of it

Americans typically have leftovers that they take home

Are you just not aware of how overweight Americans are on average? As i understand it we have been conditioned to believe these insane portions are "a meal". I was simply unable to start losing weight until i traveled to Mexico to discover and internalize what a normal meal portion is. If you go to a restaurant in the US, you should expect to see most of the people around you finishing their plates

Lemmy reporting on lemmy is just regular old news i'm pretty sure. Would an online newspaper with a comment section count as social media then? How about paper newspapers with an active "comments from readers" section?

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getting people to pay attention to and care about the primaries

Part of this needs to include running for office. Many many many demcratic primary ballots around the country are mostly if not entirely empty

I've got tuna noodle casserole with it's multitude of variations

One cannot control their thoughts.

I want to know what you mean by this.

I don't know that i fully disagree with you, I don't get to will myself to instantly think any thought, but i have a plethora of tools at my disposal to manage my thought processes. when i find myself thinking thoughts that violate my values i introduce counter thoughts to balance it all out, or sometimes i just cut it off with a "we're done here for now" kinda vibe. I can control what kind of thoughts pop into my head in response to external stimuli by altering my values. Meditation and prayer also provide a means to alter or dissipate the flow of thoughts. Many of my values are at odds with each other, so i must partake in a seemingly constant exercise of identifying and resolving the dissonances in my values either internally (changing my values) or externally (attempting to alter the world around me to match my values).

I don't like choice was made to try to create a centralized matrix.org service to try and be a discord, Matrix makes sense when self hosted for an organization or peer group that needs messaging while owning the platform it is distributed on. Admittedly a bit niche, which is probably why a centralized big main instance was produced on what should have been a fully federated platform.

Marrying the protocol to its most well funded client was also a huge mistake, a lot of what element does is propriatary to element making alternative frontends functionally unsupported. Matrix is very confused about what it wants to be.

That being said, i use it as a self hosted alternative to discord for me and my friends; anyone who gets added to the platform receives a light education about how the encryption key management works. Just about every discussion channel created is deliberately made an unencrypted room. I desperately wish they made the high stakes encryption an optional thing that you only enable when needed. Encryption by default can be configured per server, but the reputational damage is done and the settings are at a sysadmin level, so matrix.org is just fucked

The enshittification reaper is coming for Discord; the writing is on the wall, they are planning an IPO this year. The draw is that it isn't Discord and that you can own and control the data produced by your organization (or peer group), and have reasonable control over how the platform is changed. Now if none of that appeals to you then you probably aren't the target audience.

I never understood the draw of matrix.org as a service, the ideas originally driving matrix's development back in 2017 or so was to be to Discord/Slack/Teams what Lemmy is to Reddit.

I understand and empathize with your frustration, as a commuter long boarder i have similar sentiments about how politeness can inconvenience me because of the precautions i have to take to stay safe. I would, however, like to point out that you are complaining about people putting in an earnest effort to exercise empathy for you; those who don't bike or otherwise do not have the experience to know that predictability is key, but they are otherwise attempting to care for your well being

The second sentence concisely prophesies the first. How would you know anyone who has been to jail if you moralistically exclude them from your social circles?