[-] BananaChips@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 week ago

Yeah, I'm trying to find more local groups to be a part of. So far the book clubs haven't been all that great, someone told me about one that's a silent reading group so I night try that next. I also tried two hiking clubs, it was fun being around people but the pace was really slow, any time I felt like I was starting to fall into a good pace it was time to stop for the stragglers to catch up. Usually I don't hike or read to socialize though, so that could be part of it.

Thank you though. It's good to know finding hobbies and groups to socialize is the right path forward. I just need to find some more sociable hobbies, haha.

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I feel like there's only a few flavors of different types of people out there. I'm losing it over the constant crooked septum piercings, shaved sides dyed blue, pagan witches, burners, and I swear no one read Octavia Butler until that meme went around last year and suddenly everyone's favorite book is Parable of the Sower.

I have to pause to say I am genuinely happy a black woman is getting more attention to her work, she deserves it.

Back to this. It all feels performative. If you're listing 4 white male authors then one black woman, like no, you're not really expanding your view. You just want the brownie points because society feels like it's falling apart, but you're different, you've read this book.

It's just like. I know we're all on our own journeys. And if that's someone's starting place, that's great. But when I go through ten profiles in a row and feel like I've seen the same person ten times with ten different faces?

I'm pretty sure there's a term for this but I can't remember it, and if I stop to look it up then this isn't a rant. Even people who try to be nonconformist still end up conforming to a different set of standards. I have enough awareness to know I do too, it's our nature to want to be part of a group. But I feel like the groups I'm supposed to be a part of I don't fit into either. I've always struggled with feeling connected. There's two people in my life I'm strong friends with, so I know I'm capable of it. I just can't seem to find it. And yeah, coming in thinking like this isn't helping me either.

I'm tired. In so many different ways that even a good night's sleep can't fix.

[-] BananaChips@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 week ago

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[-] BananaChips@lemmy.zip 11 points 3 weeks ago

There's more than just drowning.

Hypothermia is a risk of the water isn't kept warm. And most likely someone's going to fill the tub and let it sit, so it would quickly lose its warmth. Don't assume because you're cold you'd wake up.

[-] BananaChips@lemmy.zip 7 points 3 weeks ago

I'm sorry you're in the situation you're in. You deserve better. I hope you're finding good options from others, here's my submission:

Vegetarian/vegan option: A bowl of rice with black beans on top. A healthy spoonful or two of sofrito. Some diced jalapenos (I like to briefly cook them in a pan with a little oil, but maybe don't do that if you don't know what you're getting into).

Toast a few corn tortillas (I use the oil from the jalapenos, gives the tortillas extra spice). You can toast them as short or as long as you want, I like it when they have a slight crisp but are still foldable.

Use the tortillas to scoop up the food in the bowl. It's really best if you skip a spoon and just use the tortillas/your hands. Trust me on this, it adds to the experience. Plus you can't use your phone or anything because you're using your hands to eat, and it's best to focus on your food while eating instead of a device.

I prepare the rice ahead of time, but you could also just microwave a thing of minute rice. Canned black beans because I don't have the mental energy for dried beans. A rice cooker makes cooking rice so easy I never buy minute rice, but that also would be an expense you might not be able to spare. Honestly depending on how tight money is, if you buy your rice and beans dry you'll save a bunch of money.

I ate that every day for about two years due to a medication making to hard to stomach a lot of foods. Never got old, still regularly make it because it's easy, filling, and healthy.

Another option: fried rice. Bag of frozen veggies, rice, egg, you can throw in other random stuff. MSG is cheap and takes it to the next level. I'm a goblin, so I'll go to the Asian market and just try different savory sauces. Maybe don't do that.

[-] BananaChips@lemmy.zip 17 points 1 month ago

One of the parts that gets me is there is a good opportunity for more sales there (if that should happen is another debate I don't have the energy for). A few years ago I bought an electric kettle. So cue months of ads for electric kettles. It's a kettle, you only need one. Now if I had been shown different teas or coffees, stuff I would use the kettle to make, they would have absolutely hooked me easily. I had a new toy, I was excited to use it, I would have loved trying new teas with it. I still did, but they were all ones I chose.

[-] BananaChips@lemmy.zip 36 points 1 month ago

My conspiracy theory is that it was wildly successful, because the point wasn't creating whatever VR space they claimed wanted to happen; it was to cover up the story of the Facebook papers. The timing lines up (both in October 2021 within a day or two). The additional patents acquired in the process are just a nice little bonus.

Investors ate up the idea from someone who has a history of wildly successful growth. And we all know, it would have been outcry from investors that caused any real change (in America at least) about Facebook's business practices.

[-] BananaChips@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 month ago

I'm not a medical professional, just did a quick search to verify: the first shot wasn't available for children until 1995, so older generations couldn't get it during childhood. That shot was only for children, a version for adults over the age of 60 came later in 2006, but was limited in effectiveness. In 2017 a new vaccine was introduced with significantly higher effectiveness for people over 50.

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[-] BananaChips@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 month ago

At least two. One had it done three days later, another did it within the week. Not sure about the third person, but the other two I asked and they both said they had.

I'm glad you got yours! Definitely worth it to avoid that pain. Since it's nerve pain, most pain meds don't help. And the one that did lowered it from a 9 to a 7.

[-] BananaChips@lemmy.zip 19 points 1 month ago

I got shingles last year. The first week I was back at work three people looked at me and said "I should get that vaccine"

I hope every antivaxxer gets shingles, and I hope their doctors remind them it was preventable.

[-] BananaChips@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 month ago

I sent a picture of my dog to a friend yesterday, he texted me today apologizing for not texting back sooner. I told him it was okay, and reminded him of the time I didn't text for 8 months because I forgot to install the app on my new phone.

We both just know if the other one doesn't say anything, it's not because we don't care. We've gone months before saying nothing, then when we do reconnect, it's like no time passed at all.

Granted, not everyone is like that. But making friends with the people who are helps me out a lot. And my family understands, they know I don't always text back quickly.

I don't know if this helps you? But I hope you're able to find a way to feel less guilty about struggling to stay in touch, in whatever way that looks like for you.

[-] BananaChips@lemmy.zip 6 points 1 month ago

You're gonna hate what fish do in the water.

[-] BananaChips@lemmy.zip 8 points 1 month ago

I've been getting rid of stuff and moving towards minimalism. Today I made a lot of progress, and it really shows, it feels more peaceful and quiet in my bedroom. Also, the dog is sleeping next to me. It happens every night, and every night it brings me a little joy. ๐Ÿ’œ

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