4. Is raises the chance of having sex, at least for my wife she definitely gets more in the mood when we go to bed and the bedroom looks clean and nice.

I prefer to air the bed during the day so I pull the covers down to the end and fold over once. Pillows are reset so they're fresh and comfy to start the night. Maybe later in the day I'll pull the covers up but doesn't later since it's all neat anyway.

None of that is performative, it's about freshness and comfort.

Agreed. Same reason I dont clean my dishes, or wipe.

I like it to look nice and neat. Mess and disorder puts me on edge. I like the bed made with the pillows fluffed and throw pillows placed in a certain way. And I do feel like it's more comfortable to sleep in a bed that has been made, because the pillows are fluffed and all the sheets are smoothed out and evenly distributed between my husband and me. I do just get in bed and turn over, I don't rearrange anything, and instead of a blanket I have my hubby for knee support :)

I sleep in a hammock and so "making my bed" is just "shove all the blankets into hammock so they're off the floor. I'll have to rearrange them over myself when I go to bed, anyway.

Back when I slept in a bed I never made it, either, unless I was expecting company. If they were sleeping over I'd pull out fresh sheets. If we were just hanging out in my room, I'd pull the comforter flat.

Oh, and I never got the hang of flat sheets. I kick them off in the night, unless they're my only blanket.

Keeps the dust off your bed

Most of our daily routines are.

It is also actually not healthy to make it right after you slept in it.

It makes it more comfortable to sleep in.

I have absolutely no idea where that comes from. Do you all sleep like Dracula? My bedding is usually tussled about within minutes of me laying in bed. Blankets balled up for knee support, one leg sticking out for temperature venting. I couldn’t imagine sliding under the covers and laying perfectly supine like Vladimir Lenin.

You fold your clothes after you clean them? Why, your clothes are just going to get wrinkled anyway.

You eat your food without blending it all up in a blender first? Why, your stomach mixes it all up anyway.

You take a shower? Why, you're just going to get dirty again anyway.

You wash your hands after you shit? Why, you're just going to shit again the next day.

You make slippery slope arguments? Why, you can just frame them as unpopular opinions.

It makes it more comfortable to sleep in.

More comfortable for the cat. She doesn't like it when it's a mess

The ritual of unmaking the bed can help some people, who experience difficulties sleeping, mentally prepare for sleep.

I like to be able to sit or lie on my bed after a long day without it being lumpy.

For me, I like to make it for t o reasons. First, in opposition to your first point, it does make the bed more comfortable. I can skip a day, but any more and the covers are too messed up for me to be comfortable. I don’t sleep like Lenin or Dracula. I’m a side sleeper and I roll around multiple times in the night, but I like the room cold at night, so I like the covers in place.

Second, I learned this from a grand parent I think, and I passed it on to my kids. If it’s the first thing you do in the day you’ve started the day on a good note. You completed something. Admittedly, when I was younger, this didn’t matter to me at all. As I’ve gotten older, it makes a little bit more difference.

I thought the one thing to worry about with the bedsheets is not to grow a large population of mites in them. So you mainly want to keep it ventilated.

I'm with you here. It does look nicer when it's all "setup" but for its purpose, I agree... makes no sense if I'm going to be under the covers anyway. Society plays stupid games and well... you know the rest.

Where it is nice is when you want to lie down you don't have to untangle the sheets.

You just lie down and the sheets are perfect.

Also its nice to tuck them in at least partially to make it easier to make.

How about when you have crumbs all over the bed after snaccing and you need a less itchy place to lie down.

I make my bed because my cats will absolutely shed all their hairs on my side of the bed that one time I forgot to do it. Slightly allergic, so I learned fast lol.

Firstly, I respect your opinion as I probably shared it in the past.

Secondly, we're obviously talking about making the bed as in after you wake up. Making the bed as in fresh linen is an amazing feeling and absolutely worth while once every few weeks.

Now, to rebut your comments...

1. It makes it more comfortable.

This is a silly reason, and I don't see how it's true.

It does however make bed time feel calmer and more soothing somehow. In my 20s I didn't care about quality sleep because you just bounce back from anything. In my 40s I do think about things like what might contribute to the perfect night's sleep. Having a shower, putting on clean pyjamas, and climbing into a nice bed in a tidy room just kinda sets the scene for a good sleep.

2. it doesn't take much time so you may as well do it

any task not worth my time to be a waste

this is subjective. Your whole argument may as well be "I don't value having a made up bed", which would be fine, but that's not an unpopular opinion so much as a personal preference.

Regardless, you don't "make" the bed the same way you make it when putting on fresh linen. You just flick the covers straight. It takes less time than scratching your ass.

3. It looks nice. And an unmade bed looks lazy

It's kinda weird how often people do see our bedroom TBH. Usually it's someone using the toilet in the en-suite when the other toilet is in use.

4. It's a good example for our kids

There's no way our kids would keep a nice tidy bedroom if we didn't.

It's also a pain in the ass if you don't have a lot of space around your bed. My parent's "camp" has a queen bed in basically a cubby and the only way to completely change the sheets to to hunch down on what's basically a side sill for the bed and contort yourself over it to stretch the sheets from corner to corner without having to kneel on the bed for support. I just stopped using a fitted sheet and throw a new top sheet on it once a week or so. works fine. plus its in a cubby so nobody sees the mess.

shameful cleaning ritual is a bit of a harsh descriptor, but hard agree with everything you said.