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What does femininity mean to you? (self.mtf)
submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by ada to c/mtf
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Over the years, I've seen many folk talking about their relationship with femininity and how it relates to their transition and to their sense of identity, of who they are.

I've never understood it though. I don't feel like I have a relationship with femininity, or at least, nothing beyond pragmatic necessity. It doesn't relate to my sense of identity or who I am. In many ways, it feels like an obligation, rather than a source of empowerment or self understanding.

So, I'm curious how it works for other folk who find empowerment in it. What does it mean to you? How did it help you find yourself? How do you relate to femininity now vs earlier in your life?

Edit - To add some context. I'm 7 years transitioned, and "post transition" for want of a better term. I'm quite comfortable with my own relationship (or lack of it) with femininity. This is more an exercise in trying to understand different perspectives :)

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[-] BluJay320 15 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Honestly, I don’t really have any way to describe it. Sometimes that feeling just hits and I feel particularly effeminate. Most other times I’m just kinda existing, not feeling any particular way.

Masculinity and femininity aren’t at all necessary for gender identity, though. There’s plenty of masculine women and feminine men, and all manners of those in-between and outside.

All that matters is how you feel comfortable identifying and expressing yourself. Do what you want, dress how you want, act how you want. Gender is just a label, don’t overthink it.

You do you

[-] ada 8 points 8 months ago

I transitioned 7 years ago, and these days I'm "post transition" for want of a better term. I'm ok with doing me. But I'd like to understand different perspectives too :)

[-] BluJay320 3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Oh shit, ada

Idk how I didn’t recognize it was you earlier, lmao

[-] ada 3 points 8 months ago

Sorry, I forgot to disengage ninja mode :P

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