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Why is kindness often viewed as a sign of naïveté?
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People think you are either (a) nice and let people walk all over you, or (b) you have to be evil to be strong. But the truth is you can be in between, you can be both nice and retaliatory in case others are evil to you first.
Its actually the best game-theory strategy, called "Tit-for-Tat", you be nice to others, but don't be afraid to retaliate when they start being evil. Because if you don't retaliate, they will take advantage of you.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mScpHTIi-kM
I think the term for this is assertive. At least that's how I've been defining it. You can be compassionate while also setting boundaries to prevent people from walking all over you.
The best example from my life I can recall is when I was managing the weekend shift for a help desk and one of the techs got a call from a lady who had had a TBI and could not regulate her emotions. She needed some information that was not in our wheelhouse and when this kid told her shed have to call the other department on Monday she went off on him. I took over the call and was eventually able to talk her down and get her to understand that we could not help her and we were not just refusing to by going back and forth with her and keeping my voice even and setting boundaries when she started to get pissed. She was happy with the resolution I came up with by the end of the call. It took like an hour and I felt like I was breaking a horse to get therethough.
actual real humans in reality also have this amazing ability to "talk" to each other, allowing them to communicate and say things like "hey you're being a dick, stop being a dick and we can help each other instead, if you don't stop then me and everyone i know will throw you into the ocean"
With a slight addendum, tit for tat is best, while also allowing for an appropriate amount of forgiveness in case of mistakes
Also this short game showcases the concept well https://ncase.me/trust/